Good networking takes good listening. Unfortunately, most people believe that good
networking is telling everyone about himself or herself. What good is word of mouth if nobody is
listening?
Think about the last networking event that you attended, was
everyone quietly listening, maintaining eye contact, asking valuable questions,
and responding to you with more than just uh huh.
Listening is the most important part of good networking, it
allows you to learn what others are trying to accomplish, hear others express
needs they may have, and be able to connect those who can help them.
Following are 7 tips for better listening at your next
networking event;
1. Maintain active
eye contact. Do not look over the
persons shoulder as if there might be someone better coming into the room. This sends the clear message to the person
you are speaking to and that message is; you are not important, and I really
don’t care what you have to say
2. Ask great questions. People love to talk about themselves, so ask
them, questions about what they do, why they chose to do it, how did they get
into their business, and what do they love to do when they are not working in
their business. Stephen Covey says that
you must seek to understand before being understood, asking questions allows
you to understand a person better.
3. Find some common
ground. When you ask about skills or interest, you will often find things that
you have in common. Common ground leads
to good rapport with others.
4. Take notes
whenever possible, you can jot a few notes about what you have learned on the
back of the business card. I always ask
permission before writing on the back of another person’s business card. Not because I really believe it will be a
problem, but because when I ask, they always say Thanks for Asking and they
remember that I honored their business card.
5. Stay engaged in
the conversation. People are often busy
thinking about what they are going to say when it is their turn to speak. By asking questions, commenting back, and
making comments you stay involved in what is being said versus what you are
going to say.
6. If the room is too
noisy for you to hear, ask your partner to step out of the crowd. Most open networking events are very loud and
they seem to get louder as the evening goes on.
Ask the person you are speaking to if they will step to the sideline so
that you can better hear them. Again,
this is another reason to maintain eye contact.
7. At the end of the conversation give some feed back,
emphasize something you may have heard or learned from that person.
God gave us two ears and one mouth, let’s use them
proportionately. Listen twice as much as
you speak. By doing so you will be able
to connect more people, give better referrals, and become a better gatekeeper.